Thursday, May 17, 2012

a story and a thought

i know a man who has a brilliant daughter.

fair-skinned with hair the color of late evening sun, she invented a contraption for veterans with phantom pain. she has been interviewed by the new york times, was almost diane sawyer's "person of the week" and recently presented her work at a conference in england. she was voted one of glamour magazine's 20 amazing young women, where emma stone gave her an award. it should be noted that she is a good bit younger than me. and i am young.

but this man, this father, he will not brag on her too much. oh he smiles when talking of her, and his eyes do a little dance across the ceiling when he playfully rolls them over her accomplishments. and i know he is proud because he brings the articles to work. and he does tell her of his pride, he assured me. but every time i gasp at another of her honors, he tells me, "i just remind her--it's good to be recognized. and right to be rewarded. but you are not of this world. remember that and keep your head."

what a sentiment.

ribbons and medals have their place. i still have my cheerleading trophies in an old tupperware container in the basement. but we are worth so much more than anyone could ever tell us. than any article could ever exalt us. what if we told our children that? our little girls? to seek praise, beauty and mercy above the rest. to strive to live a simple, wholesome, beautiful life reflective of God's glory and light. what a more worthy, eternal goal.

along the way, we will receive rewards in this life. people will applaud and compliment us. there will be moments when entire rooms of eyes will rest on us alone. but people will step on us too, and manipulate us, and deceive us and shame us. to constantly strive for the profit is to become vulnerable to the loss. but to maintain grace, self-respect, humility and patience prepares you for  both.

i think this man loves his daughter more than most. come to think of it, he thinks she's out of this world.


Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

Lovely- I hope that even though he does not openly display his pride in his daughter that she knows how proud he is of her- I think that is very important for a daughter to KNOW how proud her dad is of her- I do think that sometimes it needs to be said out loud.

Janette said...

I agree with Ren. Sometimes you just need to hear the words.. Although I DO NOT DOUBT for one second that he's proud of her.. Heck! I'M proud of her! What an amazing accomplishment! But ultimately, I guess the only words I ever would long to hear would be the ones of my beloved Messiah Yeshua..saying, "Well done my good and faithful servant..."

Janette, the Jongleur

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Amylou said...

I needed to hear this today. My heart's been stepped on a little too much lately.

And that last sentence...amazing!

Ana Magdalena said...

What a beautiful sentiment. Even more beautiful when described by you!

ruthy ann said...

yes, yes, yes! I pray I am this type of parent.

Blondie's Journal said...

I, too, hope I am the sort of parent that has taught my children to believe in themselves. That is so much more important than awards and honors. But those need acknowledgment, too!


Kira said...

What wonderful advice from a father.

Confessions of A Confused City Girl said...

Great great thought... This is probably one of the most important things to remember... i think the ugliness of humanity comes when we fail to remember that the grace, respect and humility that we want from others must first come from ourselves...

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chambanachik said...

Need this reminder constantly. And I hope so much to teach Millie to look beyond the kinds of things like that which keep me insecure about my own worth so often.

wildchild said...

parents such as those are why good people continue to turn out good. thankful that i have some like that and hoping that i too can be one of those someday.

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